“And so with the sunshine and the great bursts of leaves growing on the trees,…
Surviving grief, and living. The initial steps are simple, mindless, but the latter steps more arduous.
The day after your trauma - get out of bed. Shower. Shave. Its that simple. I promise. Trust me.
The three month anniversary. There is no recipe, this maze is complicated, winding, and individual. But, I can talk about what today brought for us. Driving my oldest daughter home from soccer, I found myself saying, "Can I tell you something? After Ben's death, I'm sad, and its very painful, daily. But, you know, I'm happy too, especially in the moments. Getting up in the morning, reading, writing, being with you guys and daddy and friends. Can I say that? Is it okay?"
And, after homework and dinner, the girls begging for dessert. My next instruction to you, for the three month anniversary -- do what you need, scream, cry, snuggle with your family, laugh, love, write, read. But, if the time calls and your kids ask for whipped cream -- spray a gob of Reddi-Wip® in their mouths, and yours, and listen to the laughter resonate within your home.
Then, wake up, shower, shave.
And - Breathe.